Definition…. for those who try to define.

Ah, time for a bit of definition,  for those who won’t ever get it.  Unfortunately, it is the jaded view of society today.

Let’s start with this, for the ladies, the definition of a man, not what society describes, because our views,  are not real.

A real man doesn’t make a million dollars, a real man doesn’t care how much you spent on your hair, nails,  outfit, and knows that those things don’t make you a “real” woman.

A real man,  sees when you’re having a good day,  loves it, and you.  A real man sees you having a bad day,  and will drop every piece of trivial bullshit in his life, to make your day,  that one moment, better.  Not prefect, better.

Better, by being there,  by being the support you need,  WHEN, you need it.  By building you up, and wanting better for you, making you happy,  even when he has no clue where to start. 

A real man knows, money, is not the source of happiness,  though, in this greed driven world, does grease the wheels that roll towards enjoyment.
But,  it’s relative, there’s plenty of moments, that are truly unforgettable and amazing, that cost not one penny.

A real man, misses you when he’s not with you, and he makes sure you know.
He doesn’t spend tons of money on you,  he spends his time.  Which,  is more important than money.  You can replace  money,  you can’t replace time. He gives you freely, such a finite resource, that you can’t regain.

A real man,  doesn’t need to be perfect,  most likely,  isn’t super successful, hell, he may be barely self sustaining, but he’ll give everything,  for the one that matters. 

Keep this in mind,  when any person makes a decision that money is a more important dating criteria, than time and company shared or wanted, they’ve already lost.

You can’t find happiness in a wallet, if you can,  you don’t deserve what truly matters in this world.

A real woman,  sees the difference, and knows the true value of a man,  that would rather cook you dinner, and do the dishes when you’re stressed, overwhelmed,  exhausted, or sick,  than to waste his time, because his time has value, and he values you.

A real woman, appreciates the one who values her.